The Truth About What’s Really Draining Your Energy

Have you been giving away too much energy in exchange for little to nothing?

Saying yes any which way the wind blows even when you want to say no?

Do you secretly wish you hit the pause button for all things life right about now?

If you’re over there shaking your head, I get it. You have a big heart, you love to help others. But what happens when you feel empty, when you’ve given all you can give and there’s nothing left for YOU?

I’ll go ahead and say it, you feel like crap. Your temperament is set to growly and all you can think is “go away” anytime anyone starts to approach you. Am I close?

When your nature is to help others, you naturally take on things that on the surface appear as “the right thing to do” or they may even make you feel helpful, productive, and like you’re making a difference. 

But is it the difference you want to be making?

Are you investing your time and energy into all the things that absolutely light you up inside? Or just tending to all the things you said yes to that feel like more work? All the things your ego or someone else’s guilt-trip forced upon you?

There are reasons that sensitive women end up overloaded, overwhelmed and over-extended energetically -and let me tell you it’s NOT because they cannot handle or juggle all the spinning plates.

I have to laugh at this because the women I work with, tell me they don’t want to get “spread too thin” or they’re afraid they’ll “take on too much” when they are handling more than any normal person can handle in a week!

I know they can handle a lot, but is what they are tending to what’s right for them? Typically not. They’re committed to many of the wrong things, things they assumed responsibility for that they did not need to.

I had a client who felt overwhelmed and frustrated about some of the things on her “to-do” plate. After talking through how those things landed there, she realized she had been volunteering herself to take them on for other people! She was in total surprise at that realization.

As we worked through why, she discovered old patterns of guilt and assuming responsibility to try and please others. Her conditioned mind activated pressure subconsciously to take on more and more – even if it didn’t feel right for her. She just defaulted to her ego and said yes.

Have you ever done that?

We worked on a strategy where she no longer volunteered herself unless it was something she felt in alignment with – without the guilt weighing in making her blurt our the words “I’ll just take care of it”!

She now makes her decisions from an intuitive yes or intuitive no.

There are so many different reasons (all personal) as to why sensitive women, why you might give and give only to end up feeling empty.

When there’s no return of energy that lights you up, just a one-sided way of moving through life, all pushing and forcing it’s very wearing on your energy.

You might fall into a negative pattern of people pleasing to keep the peace, taking on loads of projects in an effort to prove yourr worthtalk yourself into things only to realize you have a life full of everything you don’t like, feeling obligated from guilt trips of family members – the list goes on.

I’m sure you’d agree when you feel tired, exhausted, overwhelmed you’re not as inspired, not ready to take on those big dreams or leap out of your comfort zone am I right?

You may even feel lost and confused, stuck, depressed or question if you have what it takes to change things. I promise you do! You may need a bit of support to call out the old pattern and how to change it, but you have the power to change what you don’t like that is not serving you if you decide to.

So what’s the solution?

You get really selective about what you say yes to. How do you do that? You empower yourself to get really clear about who you are and what you like and do want by connecting with your intuition.

And as important, you get really clear about what is not working for you, what you don’t want. What makes you feel your intuitive “no”. With that, you create a strategy to eliminate those things.

This frees up your time, energy and space to put toward whatever you really do want! That way, whatever you give your time, energy and focus to gives you a return of energy that fills you back up!

Your action step: Make a list of the things on your plate that are NOT working for you.

What are you giving your time, energy and effort to that is not filling you back up?
Where are you giving too much with no return for you? (or who are you giving to?)

Hit me up, let me know what comes up for you in the comments below.

And if you’ve been feeling spread too thin, be sure to watch this.

What do you need to unlearn to become unstoppable?


Trying to accomplish new things, step out into your new dreams – feel what you want – cannot happen if you’re doing it from an old belief system where you feel limited, not good enough or anything that has not created the life you want.

Getting what you want but not feeling better for it – is just one of the signs that you might have unlearning to do.

This week, I’m sharing 5 signs you have some unlearning to do to be unstoppable – and actually get what you want! Do any come up for you?

What’s Really Putting Your Dreams on Hold


Learning something you don’t know might be what you think is holding you back from hitting those next level dreams – but probably not.

10 out of 10 times it’s something different. And I’m talking all about it on this week’s show.

Tune in for 5 signs you’re not tapping into your power to make your dreams happen plus the big why’s behind all of them!

What dream do you want to see for yourself? When do you want it to happen? Why hasn’t it happened yet?

I want to know!

Want my help to close that gap and lock your dream in? Book a call and let’s make your magic happen!

9 Remarkable Signs You Are Meant to Be in the Spotlight

Have you been feeling lost in the energy waves of negativity around you?

Caught up in or trying to get away from all the distractions? Or just waking up in the morning wondering what else you’re going to get hit with, what fire you’ll need to put out?

We are in different and challenging times. But I want to whisk you away from the world’s mess and take you to a magical place, a peaceful bubble where we talk all things purpose and the higher meaning of life.

On this episode, I’m sharing nine signs you are meant for more, to be in the spotlight sharing something amazing that only you have to offer!

Let’s continue to move away from those struggles that feel so confusing and get back on purpose.

3 Signs You’re Not Living Diliberately


Are you living deliberately or distracted?

While people are alive, very few are truly living these days.

They’ve fallen into fear, being careful and turned their focus to the outside world and what they cannot control.

Living your big dream requires you to be deliberate, following a path YOU design yourself regardless of what is happening around you.

You have to choose to pursue what you want in your heart and soul or you will live your life on default.

Here are 3 signs you’re not deliberately living your dream.

When You Worry About Old Problems

I love talking about dreams, working with women who dream big. I’ve discovered over my many years of coaching while trying to help women articulate what they really want, is that too many women cannot seem to dream beyond their most immediate most painful PROBLEM!

They want more, they feel they’re meant for more. They may see things out in the worldand think “wouldn’t that be nice”.

But too often they get stuck worrying about old problems leaving no room for those big dreams to unfold.

If that’s you, I’m here to help you change that.

On this week’s episode, something that might surprise you about your old problems. How they can help you get everything you really want!

Are excuses keeping you from living your dreams?


When you think about what you really want, your big dreams, what comes up for you?

“I don’t have time.”
“Maybe someday.”
“I can’t”
“It’s not the right time for me”

There are so many opportunities to say no to what you want, but that doesn’t mean you have to allow them to creep in and stomp out your dreams.

How much longer are you going to let those lies stop you from getting what you really want?

It’s time to call out whatever is stopping you and take charge of your life.

When Will Now Be Your Time?

I have talked with women from all over the world. They have big dreams, visions of a better world and a desire to make a difference. But at the same time, they are not putting themselves first, not leading with their own dreams.

They are too busy doing all the things for everyone while their own dreams get lost in the shuffle. What they want just does not seem important enough–so they put off their dreams and maybe even give up.

WHY DO MOST WOMEN GIVE UP ON THEIR DREAMS?

That’s what we’re talking about on this week’s episode. Because I think NOW should be your time.

7 Ways to Consistently Focus on Joy

How much time do you focus on your joy? Happiness? What lights you up to even think about?

Society is so problem focused. I hear it all the time, “My social media is so negative”. With all the negativity in the world why wouldn’t you be problem focused???

Relatives, family, people complaining around you about what is wrong in the world make it easy to create a habit of articulating all that is not working in your daily conversations.

To get more of what you do want and to feel unstoppable, you must focus on the positives. It’s time to jump off the problem train and open space for more of what you do want.

Listen to this episode for 7 ways to consistently focus on joy!